The Tantrum I Needed to Have: How Resistance Reveals Your Next Growth Edge
I’ll be honest with you: last week, I had a full-on, grown-up tantrum.
Not the stomping-feet, screaming kind (though let’s be real, that might’ve helped), but an emotional, deeply internal moment where my resistance met my reality—and I didn’t like it one bit.
It happened during a coaching call. My coach asked a simple question:
“What have you been focused on lately?”
I answered proudly, rattling off the list:
Crafting lead magnets
Building out funnels
Redesigning my website
Switching coaching platforms
Hiring a new marketing person
Midway through my list, I felt it hit me.
I wasn’t doing the thing that would actually generate revenue.
I wasn’t building the list.
I wasn’t reaching out.
I wasn’t getting on calls with potential clients.
And I knew better. In fact, I coach my clients on this exact thing. But there I was, hiding in “productive” work—avoiding the very activities that would move the needle.
So…why?
Why We Avoid the Things That Matter Most
As I reflected, it became clear: I didn’t want to come off as that person.
You know who I mean. The person who sends cold DMs. Who shows up in your inbox with unsolicited offers. Who sells in a way that feels pushy, slimy, or manipulative.
That’s not who I am. That’s not who you are, either.
But here’s the thing my coach said that cracked me open:
“Do you remember the last person who cold messaged you?”
I paused.
“…No.”
“Exactly,” he said.
He was right.
People don’t remember who reached out. But if you know you can help, you’re doing a disservice by staying quiet.
And I do know I can help:
✔️ I’ve helped clients double or triple their revenue in under two years.
✔️ Most of them earn back 2–10x what they invest in coaching—within the first year.
✔️ I have the track record, the tools, and the intuition to guide high-level transformation.
So again… why the resistance?
The Truth Behind Visibility
Because visibility is vulnerable.
Because rejection—real or imagined—hurts.
Because putting yourself out there, especially when your business is rooted in your heart and soul, can feel deeply personal.
And I’m not immune. Even after years in this work, even with a proven method and powerful results, I still have moments where I want to hide behind the pretty stuff. The design tweaks. The strategy maps. The platform moves.
Those all matter—but not if they’re a way to avoid being seen.
The Tantrum Moment (And Why It Mattered)
When I said to my coach, “You’re right. I believe you. I say this to my clients all the time. But I’m going to have a tantrum about it before I go do it…”
I was naming the resistance.
Not to indulge it—but to disarm it.
Because that’s what leadership looks like in real time.
We feel the fear.
We acknowledge the discomfort.
And we take the action anyway.
I got off that call, took a breath, and did the thing I was avoiding. I reached out. I booked calls. And guess what? It wasn’t slimy. It was aligned, warm, and human.
And it started moving the needle again.
If You’re Hiding in “Productivity” Right Now…
Let me speak directly to you:
If your days are full, but your client roster isn’t…
If your projects look polished, but your calendar is quiet…
If you’re doing all the behind-the-scenes work and still not seeing results…
You might be in a resistance loop that feels like productivity—but isn’t.
Here’s your permission slip to feel all the things. To grumble. To pause. To throw a little internal tantrum if you need to.
And then?
Do the brave thing anyway.
Action Creates Clarity
Not clarity, then action.
Action creates clarity.
When you step into motion—even messy, imperfect motion—you start to reconnect with your purpose, your people, and your power.
Because someone out there needs what you offer. And they won’t find it if you’re hiding behind another Canva graphic or email sequence draft.
So be seen. Even when it’s uncomfortable. Especially then.
Here’s Your Next Step:
Book a free 45-minute Strategic Clarity Call with me. Let’s talk about where you’re stuck, what you’re avoiding, and what real traction could look like in your business. No pressure. No pitch. Just real talk.
